In offices, colleges, school, public places or even in your family you can find at least one such person who is difficult to cope with and who always waits for the moment you put your guards down so that he/she can attack you with his/her toxic words.
Acting as energy vampire, they simply drain your energy and leave you shattered and out of temper.
The worst part is that they can’t be easily differentiated from the normal people. They come with all such traits that easily trick us into believing that we are safe. This wrong belief cost us when they start poisoning our life.
Out of their inherent selfishness and downright motives, they tend to bring forth arguments in any situation.
Common traits of toxic people
- Selfish: Just put forth a situation where they have to compromise, more often than not they will push you back to grab the opportunity.
- Born liar: Even for small faults for which simple acknowledgment will suffice, they tend to orchestrate reasons for putting blame on others.
- Non-supportive: They always assume themselves as the victim ignoring the view point of others.
- Pleasing personality: This gives you a false belief that it is safe to put your barriers down. Once you put yourself unguarded, they attack with their words.
How to deal with toxic people?
It is very easy to deal with toxic people if you can train our mind through some psychological hacks which provide you an edge in moments where you encounter them.
These mind hacks come handy with your brain and can be used anytime with a positive presence of mind.
Avoid eye contact
When someone is yelling or is uncontrollable, stop looking in their eyes. Move your attention to their forehead, nose or cheek bone. As eyes are powerful energy centers this allows you to have a sense of calm even after the conversation ends. This doesn’t mean running away from a conversation but it allows you to retain your peace of mind later as well.
If the situation becomes further uncontrollable, say them that you will return to this conversation later when they are in their complete senses for any worthwhile mutual decision to be reached.
In stressful situations, our brain starts preparing for a fight or flight response which makes us appear less confident giving an edge to the toxic person leaving us in a more vulnerable position. By chewing gum, you can easily trick the brain into believing that everything is ok as you are eating and a person can’t be eating in front of the potential harm thereby releasing chemicals that calm your mind.
Respond not react
The main motive of a toxic people is to evoke an emotional reaction from you which makes them do all the things which can hurt you to the core. The trick here is to stay calm and imagine all this as a movie going on. I know this can be a little frustrating, but believe this leaves the person, even more, angrier and ashamed of their response later.
Stand beside them
Even when you didn’t meant to sometimes a conversation heats up to the point of argument. Just move next to the person if you are standing front of him. This tricks their mind that you are not a danger to them.
Move to power pose
Stand tall, chest out and hands on hips. This specific pose makes you appear confident and indicates the toxic person to think and act before questioning you. They are active in their selfish motives only when you appear to be less confident and vulnerable.
Using these hacks you can emerge as a warrior rather than a victim.